✨The Paradox of PDA Parenting✨ When our children communicate their needs in ways that feel confusing or overwhelming - what are we usually told? 🔁 Be stricter 🔁 Use rewards 🔁 Add consequences 🔁 Set firmer boundaries 🔁 Follow the “positive behaviour” script to the letter But here’s the thing… 🎯 We’ve already tried those things. We’ve done the courses, used the charts, stuck to the strategies. We’ve read the manuals. Got the stickers. Earned the certificates. And still - nothing works! 🤷‍♀️
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✨The Paradox of PDA Parenting✨ When our children communicate their needs in ways that feel confusing or overwhelming - what are we usually told? 🔁 Be stricter 🔁 Use rewards 🔁 Add consequences 🔁 Set firmer boundaries 🔁 Follow the “positive behaviour” script to the letter But here’s the thing… 🎯 We’ve already tried those things. We’ve done the courses, used the charts, stuck to the strategies. We’ve read the manuals. Got the stickers. Earned the certificates. And still - nothing works! 🤷‍♀️
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⚠️When School Feels Like the Danger Zone⚠️ For many children - especially those with SEND or neurodivergent needs - going in to school isn’t just hard. It can often be frightening. And as parents, carers and advocates, we need to tune in to the warning signs. ⚠️ Are they anxious before school? ⚠️ Are they masking all day, only to shut down or explode once they get home? ⚠️ Are they refusing to go altogether? These aren’t signs of defiance. They’re signs of distress. And the worst thing we can do
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⚠️When School Feels Like the Danger Zone⚠️ For many children - especially those with SEND or neurodivergent needs - going in to school isn’t just hard. It can often be frightening. And as parents, carers and advocates, we need to tune in to the warning signs. ⚠️ Are they anxious before school? ⚠️ Are they masking all day, only to shut down or explode once they get home? ⚠️ Are they refusing to go altogether? These aren’t signs of defiance. They’re signs of distress. And the worst thing we can do
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Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): Working Therapeutically with PDA Children and Adolescents
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Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): Working Therapeutically with PDA Children and Adolescents
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VimeoThe Kidd Clinic
How can I support my PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) child or teen to stay regulated? 🧐 Experiment with the 4 S’s: 👉Screens 👉Safe Nervous System (yours) 👉Special Interest 👉Sensory intense experience, dopamine or novelty This is the framework I use to think through unsctructured time with my PDA son and has helped 100s of parents think through everything from long weekends with their PDA child to beginning #unschooling after school refusal. I hope it serves you ❤️ . . . #pathologicaldema
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How can I support my PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) child or teen to stay regulated? 🧐 Experiment with the 4 S’s: 👉Screens 👉Safe Nervous System (yours) 👉Special Interest 👉Sensory intense experience, dopamine or novelty This is the framework I use to think through unsctructured time with my PDA son and has helped 100s of parents think through everything from long weekends with their PDA child to beginning #unschooling after school refusal. I hope it serves you ❤️ . . . #pathologicaldema
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Learn about PDA. The podcast discusses PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) and its impact on individuals, particularly children. It emphasizes the importance of creating a suitable environment for individuals with PDA to thrive and highlights the positive qualities of individuals with PDA. Listen for more tips here 👉🏼https://suelarkey.com.au/learning-about-pda/ | Sue Larkey
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Learn about PDA. The podcast discusses PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) and its impact on individuals, particularly children. It emphasizes the importance of creating a suitable environment for individuals with PDA to thrive and highlights the positive qualities of individuals with PDA. Listen for more tips here 👉🏼https://suelarkey.com.au/learning-about-pda/ | Sue Larkey
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PDA masking is with the people and places that are perceived on a *subconscious* level as unsafe. With PDA children this can often be confused as “learning” and another authoritarian approach “working” because the child complies in the moment. But you see it negatively impacting basic needs and behavior over time. While it might not be present in places where the child masks, it will worsen elsewhere—with things like school refusal, lengthier/more intense meltdowns, and diminishing access to eat
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PDA masking is with the people and places that are perceived on a *subconscious* level as unsafe. With PDA children this can often be confused as “learning” and another authoritarian approach “working” because the child complies in the moment. But you see it negatively impacting basic needs and behavior over time. While it might not be present in places where the child masks, it will worsen elsewhere—with things like school refusal, lengthier/more intense meltdowns, and diminishing access to eat
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When a PDA parent walks into a ‘traditional’ parenting class because it’s something we’re forced to do 🙄 Cue the awkward advice, polite nodding and the moments you disassociate from the room to think about things that matter like what you’re going to make for dinner that night! What’s the most unhelpful parenting advice you’ve ever gotten? Please do share your stories - I need the laughs (and solidarity)! Mine have always been around boundaries, routines, rewards and punishments - gee whiz - li
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When a PDA parent walks into a ‘traditional’ parenting class because it’s something we’re forced to do 🙄 Cue the awkward advice, polite nodding and the moments you disassociate from the room to think about things that matter like what you’re going to make for dinner that night! What’s the most unhelpful parenting advice you’ve ever gotten? Please do share your stories - I need the laughs (and solidarity)! Mine have always been around boundaries, routines, rewards and punishments - gee whiz - li
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If you know, you know 🧦😂 Getting a PDA child to put on socks isn’t just a “little struggle” - it’s a full sensory and demand battle. Sometimes it’s quicker to just… not. I like to play a game whereby I start whispering about chocolate and money to see if they can actually hear still!! 😵‍💫 Joking aside, I try my best to adjust my mindset and not sweat the small stuff, some battles really aren’t worth having. I always think it’s an indication that the next step - whether it’s leaving the house
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The question I get asked all of the time: “What’s the best school for a PDA child?” The actual answer? In my opinion there’s no single “perfect” school for PDA learners. ✅ Mainstream with adaptations? Sometimes. ✅ Specialist or alternative provision? It can work. ✅ Home education? For some, yes. ✅ Flexi-schooling? A great middle ground. But here’s the key: 👉 It’s not about finding the right school - it’s about creating the right environment where PDA learners feel safe, understood and able to t
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